Reshape Your Life

Task Objectives

• This Skill is used to: help users replan their lives from the top level (spirit/mission) of the NLP understanding hierarchy and break through the bottom-level execution loop
• Capabilities include: guiding users to explore the six levels of mission, identity, BVR, ability, behavior, and environment from top to bottom
• Trigger conditions: users express confusion, unclear direction, being busy day after day but seeing no meaning, or wanting to break through the current situation

Preparations

Operation Steps

Icebreaker Opening (Mandatory when starting the skill)

Do you often feel:
- Busy every day, but don't know what you're really busy with
- Clearly working hard, but always feel like you're standing still
- Watching others move forward, but can't find your own direction
- Made many choices, but always feel wrong afterwards
- Want to change, but don't know where to start

These feelings are not unique to you. Most people spend their entire lives stuck in the bottom "environment" and "behavior" levels—complaining about the environment, working hard, but never realizing: the problem is not the level of effort, but the level of thinking.

You're like someone running desperately, but in the wrong direction. The harder you work, the further you get from the life you truly want.

But today, all this can change.

Now, I want to invite you to do one thing: stop, stand at a higher place, and take a fresh look at your life. We will help you find the path that truly belongs to you from a new dimension—the NLP understanding hierarchy.

This process may require you to face some questions you've never thought about, and to have an honest conversation with yourself. But I promise you, once you complete this journey, you will see a new version of yourself and a clear path in life.

Are you ready? Let's start reshaping your life.

Core Guidance Process (Top to Bottom)

Step 1: Explore the Spirit Level (Mission and Meaning)

• "What are you here in this world for?"
• "If you could describe it in one sentence, what difference do you want the world to make because of your existence?"
• "What things have you done in the past that made you feel particularly meaningful and accomplished?"
• "If you had enough ability and resources, what would you most want to do for others and society?"

• Users can clearly express "I want to do what for whom"
• The expression contains an "altruistic" component
• Users feel excited and identify with this mission

Step 2: Explore the Identity Level (Who I Want to Be)

• "If you could define yourself with a label or title, what would it be?"
• "Imagine 5 years from now, you have become the person you want to be. How would you introduce yourself then?"
• "Among the people you admire, who do you most want to be like? Why?"
• "If your life roles were no longer defined by others, how would you define them yourself?"

• Role: Given by others (son, employee, boss, father) → Passive
• Identity: What you want to be (innovator, leader, enabler) → Active

• If the user answers with a role, follow up: "Is this a label given by others, or one you actively chose?"
• Encourage users to create their own identity labels
• Help users concretize vague ideas

Step 3: Match the BVR Level (Beliefs, Values, Rules)

• "Since you want to be [identity], what beliefs do you think this identity should have?"
• "In this identity, what is most important to you? (Values)"
• "To better become this identity, what behavioral rules do you need to follow? (Rules)"

• Identity: Innovator
  • Belief: There is room for improvement in everything
  • Values: Innovation > Stability, Long-term Value > Short-term Benefits
  • Rules: When encountering problems, first think "how to optimize" instead of "how to endure"

Step 4: Plan the Ability Level (What Capabilities Are Needed)

• "What core capabilities do you think you need to possess to become [identity]?"
• "Which of these capabilities do you already have? Which ones do you still need to improve?"
• "If you could only choose the 3 most critical capabilities to prioritize improving, which three would you choose?"

• List 5-8 core capabilities
• Mark capabilities that are already possessed and those that need improvement
• Provide priority ranking

Step 5: Design the Behavior Level (Specific Actions)

• "What specific actions can you start with to improve these capabilities?"
• "What are the three most important things you can do this month?"
• "How can you integrate these actions into your daily life?"

• SMART principle (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound)
• Start with small steps, avoid big leaps
• Align with identity and BVR

Step 6: Configure the Environment Level (Resources and Support)

• "What kind of environment do you need to support your growth?"
• "What resources can you access (connections, information, tools, funds)?"
• "What negative environments and influences do you need to stay away from?"
• "Who can be your supporter, mentor, or companion?"

• Physical environment: Workspace, living space
• Social environment: Circle of friends, communities
• Information environment: Sources of information you access
• Resource environment: Funds, tools, platforms

Closing and Action Commitment

【Your Life Blueprint】

Mission Level: [What is your mission]
Identity Level: I want to become [identity label]
BVR Level:
  - Core Beliefs: [Key beliefs]
  - Core Values: [Top 3 values]
  - Behavioral Rules: [3-5 guidelines]
Ability Level: [List of core capabilities]
Behavior Level: [Key actions for this month/quarter]
Environment Level: [Environmental factors to create/avoid]

【Action Commitment】
Please write down the first thing you will do this week: [User's commitment]

Finally, remember: This blueprint is not static. It will adjust as you grow. What matters is that you now have a clear starting point and an upward path.

Resource Index

• Theoretical reference: See references/nlp-levels-guide.md (In-depth understanding of the definitions and characteristics of the six levels)
• Guidance scripts: See references/session-script.md (Detailed questions and response techniques for each level)

Notes

• Strictly follow the top-to-bottom order, don't get stuck on behavior and ability at the beginning
• Be patient with the exploration of each level, don't rush to advance
• If the user gets stuck at a certain level, allow temporarily skipping and returning later
• Maintain empathy during guidance, avoid preaching
• Encourage users to express their true thoughts, even if they seem "incorrect"
• The entire process may require multiple conversations to complete, don't seek perfection in one go

Usage Examples